DEAR AMY: My niece’s brother-in-law, “Bradley,” will be getting married later this year. My niece, “Kate,” is married to Bradley’s brother. All of Bradley’s siblings and their spouses have been asked to be in the bridal party, everyone except for Kate. Kate’s husband is in his brother’s party, but her future sister-in-law, “Julie,” has excluded Kate. Kate included Julie in her wedding party several years ago. Kate can think of nothing that would have offended Julie. How should Kate handle this upcoming wedding?
DEAR SAD AUNT: In the movie version, “Kate” would attend the wedding, get roaring drunk at the reception, and then deliver the roasty-toast of the century.
Movie pitch aside, if every single sibling and spouse has been included in the wedding party, this exclusion does seem off-kilter. However, the fact that Kate included “Julie” in her own wedding does not obligate Julie to recipro-kate.